Averse to one metric judgments?
decision making
- "Can I do this with less effort?" Physically, this applies to anything. Sitting, pooping, walking, standing, reading. It's an immediate invitation into my body and more relaxation. There is often habitual extraneous muscular/mental/emotional tension in the system.
- If I'm feeling small, stuck, contracted, tense – it can often help to "get as big as the room". It's not something to really think about or analyze too much. Just… become as big as the room. When I do so, there's often more space for the knotted stuff to just be and/or move. This also works great even when things are good.
- I don't have a convenient handle for this one, but it's something like: "fall into wonder as you observe (from within) your body just doing simple things". Doing the dishes or making coffee could be a chore – or I can switch into looking through this lens and just be astonished at how intricate and skillful the dance of it all is. There's no way I could thinkmanage it all, and yet somehow it all happens anyway.
Was Trump actually hit by a bullet? I’m skeptical that a bullet grazed his ear, and think it’s more likely that a piece of shrapnel clipped him. I’m not intending to minimize the fact that someone definitely tried to kill him, but rather I am irritated by his spinning and inflation of the story if there is a truer thing to be said about what happened.
The secret service really fucked up. How on earth do they miss a lone sniper on a roof that many of the bystanders identified before them? I don’t think there is a conspiracy theory here, but do believe someone should probably be fired for their oversight.
AMA with Rob Miles on AI Safety. Wednesday, 2/4 at 1:00pm CT
AISafety.info founder has spent years telling the world about risk posed by strong AI.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6tYqqb6AjTMWho am I? Great to meet everyone here!
I wanted to take a moment to to let you all know a bit about myself.
I am an entrepreneur that wears a lot of hats. I am a Realtor, insurance agent, content creator on Twitch and YouTube, and professional dungeon master.
I am so looking forward to connecting with you all here. Let’s grow together!
Who am I? Great to meet everyone here!
I wanted to take a moment to to let you all know a bit about myself.
I am an entrepreneur that wears a lot of hats. I am a Realtor, insurance agent, content creator on Twitch and YouTube, and professional dungeon master.
I am so looking forward to connecting with you all here. Let’s grow together!
A Future I Love Runs On . The Timeless Technology of Right Relationship, leveraging independence to serve and increase interdependence fueled by mutual desire, alignment, and enjoyment.
Throughout human history, survival needs have compelled relational compromise. We live to the standards of others, or we die alone. We compromise ourselves, or we ask that others compromise, and we control or be controlled, all in order to have some semblance of our preferences met, some farce of belonging, some "form" of relationship.
As abundance has flooded our material world, as life has gotten easier, we've created distance in order to experience freedom from social constraints. We have used the technology of independence in the worst possible way--to live independently.
The future I love is one in which we leverage our ability to be independent and self-sufficient to draw us into close and voluntary low-stakes relationships with many other human beings.
No longer are our choices to go it alone or compromise our authenticity to fit in. The networking of the world means that there is somewhere our authenticity will be welcome and we can find it and go to there within our lifetimes. This is unprecedented freedom, which shows very clearly in the way we don't have any idea what to do about it.
I go to "community" homes and notice that everyone has their own car, shops for their own food, and makes their own individual meals. This is the greatest expression, for me of unconditional poverty in community form. Conditionally, wealth is present. Regardless of the conditional wealth, individualist practices can keep us in poverty.
In the future I love, we have unconditional wealth, the wealth of interdependence with aligned individuals, the wealth of relational harmony, the wealth of contentment in the now moment.
And it's not so far-fetched, it's not so futuristic. I have it here now.
#futureyoulove
"You know, there are 13 ways of doing anything. 11 of them will work. Just pick one and do it.”
What are your secret internal moves, your cues? I'm eternally curious about how we navigate our worlds, and the tricks, jumps, hops, and skips we use.
Sports coaches have cues for all kinds of things. "Follow through" in golf, tennis, and throwing generally. "Chest up, hips back, knees out" for a back squat. "Light feet" or "quick feet" for agility training.
These cues aren't attempting to be accurate descriptions of the world from a physics point of view. They're an attitude/orientation that helps a human do a thing a little better.
My contention: we each are an entire compendium of little skill orientations that we use all the time. But because they're second nature and interior, they're funcionally invisible and don't often get shared or talked about.
Wouldn't it be neat if we talked about them?
Some examples from me:
So what are your cues? Nothing is too simple, silly, or obvious.
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When you take one path. When you take one path, all other paths die and are left behind.
Such is the weight of all our choices.
But I'm not good at letting things die. I keep going back and dragging half-alive corpses around. Abomination!
You stink of the dead. Mark your endings and grieve them, foul beast!
Creative thinking vs winning an argument. Creative thinking needs to be taught and valued as highly as smart thinking, right thinking, and ethical thinking.
I wonder if we've been trained - consciously and unconsciously - to converse in formats that can be intimidating and arguable ... inviting responses that are judging, which can then be judged back and forth: smart or stupid, right or wrong, ethical or corrupt ... that binary thing we do. I propose that this creates anxiety and intimidates creative brainstorming, mutually respectful musing, generous listening, genuine questioning, seeking connection and curious questions?
I can be as guilty as the next person - fishing for affirmation by winning a point in conversation ...
#DeepTakes
Navigating Buying or Walking. For those of you who are good at saving your money. 💰 What inspires you to not buy?
Say you’re in a store or online and you see something cool. What do you do? What are your criteria for buying or walking away?
Asking because while I love knowing money is being put away, I also love to shop. It can be as simple as, I’m in Manchester (like I am right now) and want to buy something unique that I can’t buy at home. Or I don’t have a something in that color, fabric or design. I don’t need it. I just like it and will enjoy it.
How do you navigate this? What’s your approach?
Navigating Buying or Walking. For those of you who are good at saving your money. 💰 What inspires you to not buy?
Say you’re in a store or online and you see something cool. What do you do? What are your criteria for buying or walking away?
Asking because while I love knowing money is being put away, I also love to shop. It can be as simple as, I’m in Manchester (like I am right now) and want to buy something unique that I can’t buy at home. Or I don’t have a something in that color, fabric or design. I don’t need it. I just like it and will enjoy it.
How do you navigate this? What’s your approach?
Navigating Buying or Walking
The Relateful Company should embrace more job titles. We’re under-appreciating orange.
We’ve included the green critiques, like the classic:
What gets measured gets managed — even when it’s pointless to measure and manage it, and even if it harms the purpose of the organisation to do so- V. F. Ridgway, 1956
But we need to embrace more healthy competition, striving for excellence, even rankings.
one way we can do this is to make more liberal use of titles, and brag on people. @Valerie Daniel is the MANAGING DIRECTOR, and we should have her listed as such in emails and things
What else is healthy orange and how can we transclude it?
What do we already do that is already healthy orange?
The Relateful Company should embrace more job titles. We’re under-appreciating orange.
We’ve included the green critiques, like the classic:
What gets measured gets managed — even when it’s pointless to measure and manage it, and even if it harms the purpose of the organisation to do so- V. F. Ridgway, 1956
But we need to embrace more healthy competition, striving for excellence, even rankings.
one way we can do this is to make more liberal use of titles, and brag on people. @Valerie Daniel is the MANAGING DIRECTOR, and we should have her listed as such in emails and things
What else is healthy orange and how can we transclude it?
What do we already do that is already healthy orange?
The Relateful Company should embrace more job titles. We’re under-appreciating orange.
We’ve included the green critiques, like the classic:
What gets measured gets managed — even when it’s pointless to measure and manage it, and even if it harms the purpose of the organisation to do so- V. F. Ridgway, 1956
But we need to embrace more healthy competition, striving for excellence, even rankings.
one way we can do this is to make more liberal use of titles, and brag on people. @Valerie Daniel is the MANAGING DIRECTOR, and we should have her listed as such in emails and things
What else is healthy orange and how can we transclude it?
What do we already do that is already healthy orange?
The Relateful Company should embrace more job titles. We’re under-appreciating orange.
We’ve included the green critiques, like the classic:
What gets measured gets managed — even when it’s pointless to measure and manage it, and even if it harms the purpose of the organisation to do so- V. F. Ridgway, 1956
But we need to embrace more healthy competition, striving for excellence, even rankings.
one way we can do this is to make more liberal use of titles, and brag on people. @Valerie Daniel is the MANAGING DIRECTOR, and we should have her listed as such in emails and things
What else is healthy orange and how can we transclude it?
What do we already do that is already healthy orange?
Attempted Trump Assasination- Was he actually hit by a bullet? (meta commentary: I imagine the future of uptrust will host more conversations of this nature… so let’s see how we navigate it)
On Saturday, former president Donald Trump was the target of an attempted assassination.
Two things I want to talk about–
I’d like to hear others’ opinions on this + where your credibility comes from. Name your news source or experience that leads you to believe what you’re sharing.
How relationships cultivate Who I Want To Be. I have this thing consistently happen in romantic relationships about 10 months in…
I find myself doing a full inventory of if my partner is helping me become who I want to be.
What am I training myself to do in this connection? What beliefs am I supporting or forming in myself through this connection?
I guess I’m often doing this throughout a relationship, but the 10 month mark is where I get the itch to make decisions about if I’ll continue or not.
I’m in this moment with my current partner…appreciating how our relationship is helping me become more open to communicating my feelings honestly, owning my needs as non negotiable (and sometimes uncompromising), push myself to communicate before things are at red alert
stage, feel how big and all encompassing love can be, and I see myself as more attractive and smart because of his affirmation. However, I’m definitely learning and practicing some other things that I’m unsure of- sitting with feelings of deep missing for weeks at a time, practicing relying (almost exclusively) on non-romantic connections for support through big changes, and something around extreme letting go of possessiveness of another, which almost reads like a letting go of preferences in my system.
I think those latter things are noble. But I’m wondering…are they noble for me?
I’m reading a book right now that says something about it being somewhat easy to slip into living a life that would be noble but it’s based on someone else’s dream or ideas. And it’s important to connect with your dreams, unique ideas, purpose…
When and how do you tend to take inventory of a relationship? How do your relationships support you?
Also open to what shadows you see in my frame 👀